As a surrogate, you have absolute control over your body and the medical decisions that are made in the process of surrogacy. But what’s really important is your views on those issues that could potentially come up. For example, if a fetus was developing without a brain, would you be willing to terminate? How many embryos are you willing to carry? Will you carry for a gay couple? Will you carry for someone who has a medical issue? What about for someone of another race? That’s why it’s so important to have an attorney such as me with the experience that I have to make sure that you are matched with somebody who is on the same page as you on those tough issues.
I’ve had a couple come into my office who matched on their own or with some agency and had already spent $10,000 in medical screenings and this and that, but nobody asked the million-dollar question, which is: Would you terminate if there was a problem with the fetus? The woman whose eggs were being used was 42 years old, and of course, there is a high rate of chromosomal abnormalities over 40. The surrogate said, “Oh, no, I would never terminate under any circumstances!” And the mother-to-be was like, “Oh… gosh.” Not that I advocate either way. I feel like this is the decision of the parties, and of course, nobody can make you do anything.